Comments on: Relationships http://www.theflyingchange.com/2009/09/10/relationships/ Just another WordPress weblog Thu, 11 Mar 2010 09:56:34 -0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.5 hourly 1 By: Sterling Lynch http://www.theflyingchange.com/2009/09/10/relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-511 Sterling Lynch Fri, 11 Sep 2009 03:12:34 +0000 http://www.theflyingchange.com/?p=1408#comment-511 Well put. I totally agree. Well put. I totally agree.

]]> By: theflyingchange http://www.theflyingchange.com/2009/09/10/relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-510 theflyingchange Thu, 10 Sep 2009 21:18:20 +0000 http://www.theflyingchange.com/?p=1408#comment-510 I also think it has something to with our definition of success as<br>binary. Success is painted as linear in its orientation. So the cost<br>of missing an opportunity is therefore incredibly high. However, what<br>I'm suggesting is that there are a near infinite combinations of<br>success, such that making it through any one specific door or seizing<br>one specific opportunity is besides the point. You can get there any<br>number of ways and by cultivating geniuine human connection you<br>increase the chance that you'll be happy when you do. I also think it has something to with our definition of success as
binary. Success is painted as linear in its orientation. So the cost
of missing an opportunity is therefore incredibly high. However, what
I'm suggesting is that there are a near infinite combinations of
success, such that making it through any one specific door or seizing
one specific opportunity is besides the point. You can get there any
number of ways and by cultivating geniuine human connection you
increase the chance that you'll be happy when you do.

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]]> By: Sterling Lynch http://www.theflyingchange.com/2009/09/10/relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-508 Sterling Lynch Thu, 10 Sep 2009 19:07:07 +0000 http://www.theflyingchange.com/?p=1408#comment-508 Very thoughtful and insightful post. Thank you.<br><br>It always amazes me how quickly people lose sight of the fact that being a good person is a surer and more rewarding path to success. It is no guarantee, of course, but it a much more pleasant trip.<br><br>One possible explanation is that we rarely teach even kids how to be good. We expect them to learn best practice by punishing bad practice. That's no way to teach or learn anything.<br><br>Here is one way I try to be good. When someone is good to me, I call attention to it, and use very specific positive language (e.g. thanks, for being so generous with your time). And as you suggest: alway be sincere. Very thoughtful and insightful post. Thank you.

It always amazes me how quickly people lose sight of the fact that being a good person is a surer and more rewarding path to success. It is no guarantee, of course, but it a much more pleasant trip.

One possible explanation is that we rarely teach even kids how to be good. We expect them to learn best practice by punishing bad practice. That's no way to teach or learn anything.

Here is one way I try to be good. When someone is good to me, I call attention to it, and use very specific positive language (e.g. thanks, for being so generous with your time). And as you suggest: alway be sincere.

]]> By: wendy http://www.theflyingchange.com/2009/09/10/relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-507 wendy Thu, 10 Sep 2009 14:39:40 +0000 http://www.theflyingchange.com/?p=1408#comment-507 It is true. I feel very lucky to have the close friends that I have cultivated and maintained over the years, even with people that I don't see or talk to very often. Listening to them and interacting with them has taught me about being a better friend and a better wife and a better mother and a better person, I hope. We haven't made each other rich and powerful, but the love and support we provide each other is priceless. It is true. I feel very lucky to have the close friends that I have cultivated and maintained over the years, even with people that I don't see or talk to very often. Listening to them and interacting with them has taught me about being a better friend and a better wife and a better mother and a better person, I hope. We haven't made each other rich and powerful, but the love and support we provide each other is priceless.

]]> By: rawhiteley http://www.theflyingchange.com/2009/09/10/relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-506 rawhiteley Thu, 10 Sep 2009 13:43:49 +0000 http://www.theflyingchange.com/?p=1408#comment-506 Ahh, yes- I do remember that one... Ahh, yes- I do remember that one…

]]> By: theflyingchange http://www.theflyingchange.com/2009/09/10/relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-505 theflyingchange Thu, 10 Sep 2009 13:30:04 +0000 http://www.theflyingchange.com/?p=1408#comment-505 It's an old Far Side cartoon that I've always had trouble digging up. A<br>utensil is doing a stand-up routine in front of a bunch of other utensils<br>and says, "But seriously forks" It's an old Far Side cartoon that I've always had trouble digging up. A
utensil is doing a stand-up routine in front of a bunch of other utensils
and says, “But seriously forks”

]]> By: rawhiteley http://www.theflyingchange.com/2009/09/10/relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-504 rawhiteley Thu, 10 Sep 2009 13:21:23 +0000 http://www.theflyingchange.com/?p=1408#comment-504 Who you calling a "fork"? lol. Great post. Who you calling a “fork”? lol. Great post.

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